My 2014 Word of the Year Treated Me Well

2014 Word of the Year

Embrace.

That was my word for 2014. With only a few weeks left in 2014, I’ve been reflecting on how that word has guided me this year. My intention behind the embrace was to remind myself to love me, imperfections and all. To not be too hard on myself.

I think I mostly accomplished my intention. I said no to more things than I normally would have. I stop beating myself up for being so ambitious in my dreams. I felt less guilty about leaving my family while I traveled for different conferences and meetings.

I even embraced my fear and learned how to swim, even if I didn’t attend all of my lessons. While I’m still a little shaky in the deep end of the pool, I’m much more comfortable in the water. I showed my kids that they could embrace their fears and learn how to swim too.

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[VIDEO] New ABC Show black-ish: Don’t Compare it to The Cosby Show! #blackishABC

Check out my YouTube video showcasing why I hope people won’t compare the new ABC Show black-ish to The Cosby Show and keep reading for more details on the show including its controversial name.

 I feel like I’m especially qualified to tell you to make this distinction as a child who was raised in the 80’s, grew up in NY and actually saw a live taping of The Cosby Show – the one where Lena Horne appeared and sang a melancholy song for Denise who was turning 16….plus I’m Black and in some ways Blackish…

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9 THINGS TO SAY TO YOUR DAUGHTER EVERY DAY

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I am blessed. I am blessed to have a smart, beautiful, confident little girl, who is also compassionate and kind. In all honesty, Jam is the girl that I dreamed of being when I was her age. She’s the girl that I sometime still dream of being as a grown woman.

Funny how those things work out.

As Jam’s mom, I feel that one of my top responsibilities is to teach her that, although we love her dearly and would do anything for her, she has to feel the same way about herself.  She has the ultimate responsibility of loving who she is, flaws and all.  For a six year-old, this can definitely be an overwhelming message. So every day, Toon and I take steps to instill that message in her. One of the areas that we focus on is our speech and not only what we say to our daughter, but what she says in response.  Here are 9 things we say to Jam every day.

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Tasty Acorns You Can Make! {Nutter Butter Recipe}

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YUMMY ACORNS

WHAT YOU NEED:

Miniature Nutter Butter cookies

Hershey’s Kisses

Miniature chocolate chips

Chocolate frosting

WHAT YOU DO:

1. Add a small amount of frosting to one side of the Nutter Butter cookie.

2. Attach a Hershey’s Kiss to the frosting.

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Through the Eyes of a 5 Year Old

A few weekends ago  my daughter and I were filling out Halloween cards to send to her friends. When we got to the closing she wanted to sign them “Love Maddie”.

Now in theory there may be nothing wrong with this. But I stopped her. Why, because I didn’t know how that phrase would have been perceived by the adults. To me, Love is such a strong emotion and I didn’t feel that she should use it so freely. After all what would the other parents say? I tried to talk her into using the word FROM,  but she was not having it. She decided that she didn’t want to send out any cards after that. Did i just have a learning moment as a mom? Yes but it was Maddie who did the schooling.

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4 Types of Mompreneur Businesses You May Want to Consider

Home Based BusinessTo get your creative juices flowing and spark ideas for a home based business of your own, below are four examples to model after:

Arts & Crafts: Although I am an amateur in scrapbooking, and I am teaching myself how to draw, I do not possess outstanding talent in producing jewelry, art work, clothes, glassware, crocheted baby sweaters, etc. If you have the flair for arts and crafts with unique, eye-catching items to sell, you may want to launch an arts and crafts business.  You could either open your own online store, or sell your products through Etsy.com

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Off the Needles: The Sock Head Hat

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I don’t know why I let myself procraftinate. I will be chugging along, working up a yarn thing and making decent progress when suddenly BOOM! I get stuck and frustrated and avoid doing the thing I was working on. This week a cowl (sorry Kelly!) and Pop’s mittens fell prey to my procraftination. I have to frog both. The cowl has some wonky things going on with it and I am just not liking how it looks.  Pop’s mittensthe Issac Mizrahi yarn we picked out for it is way too fuzzy and I don’t like the way the first mitten looks.

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Executive Actions on Immigration

Last night, President Obama unveiled his executive actions “crack down on illegal immigration at the border, prioritize deporting felons not families, and require certain undocumented immigrants to pass a criminal background check and pay taxes in order to temporarily stay in the U.S. Without fear of deportation.

During Civics Class, we discussed what this means. To my surprise, the residents were not as excited as I was about the program. One had a concern about a person she is having troubles with fits the criteria for the action, and instead of being made to leave, now this person has an opportunity to stay and bother her even more. Others in the class were more pragmatic. Like me, they struggle with the idea that people have, in black and white, broken the law. Anyone who is in the country out of status (expired visa) or undocumented (illegally) are criminals. BUT, and this is a big but, as residents new to the country, they can understand the need and desire to get to America by any means necessary.

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Possibly Losing My Mom, I Am Still Just Not Ready

My Mom had a health scare recently and it was back to the hospital, doctors visits, nurses, constant back and forth, sleepless nights, early mornings and rehab.  All while having the thoughts of a child who could lose her Mom and its affecting me to say the least.

I’m just not ready.

We lost my Dad and I remember having dreams soon thereafter of losing her as well.  Awaking from a dream and running into her bedroom just to make sure that she was there, was a part of my everyday reality.  Being the oldest and the one she calls the most, I’m not sure that I’m ready to take on the responsibility of becoming the head of the family.  Yes I have my daughter and the grand kids but the thought of taking my parents place, I’m just not ready.

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