All around me, on social media and in real life, people are chattering about being “woke”. It got me to thinking… how many of us in the breast cancer community are woke? Like for real, honestly and truly aware about what’s happening in the breast cancer community and how it affects us personally and others around the world? Do we know what’s going on?
I think that outside of what may be happening to us personally (or our loved one), we’re not only blissfully unaware, we’re perfectly fine (for the most part) in not knowing.
If you’re like me and glued to the Olympics then here’s something to supplement your Olympic knowledge. Nat Geo Kids’ Everything Sports book contains all kinds of great photos and fun facts that will help you decide which sport you might want to participate in.
You start creating and having the confidence you want by putting on your big girl panties and deciding you will have the confidence you want. Creating the confidence starts in your mind. It starts with you mentally preparing to be confident. This is done by actually deciding that you will be confident. It is the essential first step in the journey towards confidence. You can do this. Almost everyone who wants to be confident can be confident with the right preparation.
The right preparation starts before you ever get out of bed in the morning.
My daughter is junior at the illustrious Spelman College in Atlanta Georgia. It is the number one HBCU ( Historically Black Colleges and Universities) in the country. Whenever I think of Spelman, I think of a saying they told the girls at one of the earliest orientation programs, “It’s your choice, choose to change the world.”
The words stand out with me because of the power in them. There is strength in knowing that you have a choice and that choice can be to change the world. Those words are powerful. The young women who heard the words were moved by them. They leave the Sister’s Chapel thinking they can change the world for the better. They believe they are strong and powerful and able to do whatever they want to change the world.
It is incredible to see these young women who just a short time ago were freshman girls become young women all because they heard “It’s your choice, choose to change the world.” As you sat through the orientation program and listen to the words, you can actually see the transformation. They come in scared, nervous and not knowing what to expect. By the time parents are excused from the program and just the Spelmanites are left, a change has taken place.
The young women are now sitting up a little straighter. They are still scared, but there is a power in them. They have heard the words. They have answered the call. They know they have a choice. All of them have chosen to change the world. They do not yet know how they are going to change the world, but they are going to do it. As they were sitting in their seats and listening to the words each of them decided to change the world.
As they spend the next four years completing their Spelman educations, they all start the work. In their own ways and in their own spaces, they choose to change the world and make it what they want it to be. My daughter is now on the third leg of her journey to change the world. She has already made some changes and claimed her place. It is a beautiful thing.
So today, instead of thinking you need to teach the college kids something, follow the Spelman words of advice. Accept it is your choice and choose to change the world.
Healthcare professionals agree that the best way to combat breast cancer is with early detection. In order to do so, women must perform regular self-exams on their breasts. It might be uncomfortable at first, but it will soon become a simple part of your routine.
Use your words. Your words have power and strength.
I am a writer. My tools are words. My accessories are words. My life is all about words. I created a blog and a business around the idea of encouraging, inspiring and motivating women to be their best at work and home. I do that with words.
If you are looking for ways to contribute and to make the world a better place, simply use your words. Send text messages to your friends who are going through hard times. Use your words to encourage them to hang in there. Use your words to give them hope. Use your words to give them pep talks.
When I have a friend or colleague who needs to be encouraged, inspired or motivated, I use my words. When I have a colleague who needs a pep talk to get through an important work event, I use my words. When I have a friend who is sad and doesn’t know how she will go on, I use my words.
One of my favorite things to do is to use the alphabet song. I start with the letter “A” and work my way through the alphabet a letter at a time to share helpful words. For example, at 9 am I will text, “Good morning! A – you are amazing. It is such a thrill to see you in action.” At 10 am, I will text, “Hey lady, B – you are bold and bodacious people move aside to see you in action.” As the day goes on, once an hour I will add a new letter and new encouraging words.
Every person who person who has received an alphabet song from me has felt better. It normally takes only a few messages to get people feeling better. Try it with your friends – it works. More importantly, try it for yourself. When you wake up tomorrow morning, give yourself a compliment starting with the letter “A.” then once an hour for the rest of the day, give yourself a compliment starting with the next letter in the alphabet.
Singing the alphabet to yourself this way will do several things:
1. it will help you improve your vocabulary
2. it will help you to see yourself in positive terms
3. it will get you accustomed to seeing yourself referred to in positive terms
So, no matter if it is a friend who needs it or you who needs it, use your words. Your words have the power to encourage, inspire and motivate, use them!
Brave Like Me is such a great book. It’s one of those books for littles that I wish they’d written sooner. Large color photographs containing people of all shapes and colors represent the members of the military who serve our countries. Let’s not the little ones left behind at home to hold down the fort and their feelings while Mom or Dad is gone.
Summer is a dangerous time for children with car accidents, pool drownings, dog bites and heat-related incidents to name a few. As a journalist, I’ve covered several cases like this and know that they’ll likely be more. It reminded me that we have to watch out for each other. I came up with these suggestions to become a nosy neighbor to keep kids safe. If you have more suggestions, add them to the comments.
Stop being a solo artist and realize that team work makes the dream work. As I write this letter, we have just finished the Republican Presidential Convention and the Democratic national Convention is about to begin. No matter what your political persuasion, one thing the two conventions make very clear is that you don’t have to do it alone.
One of the reasons team sports are good for children is that they teach children to work with others. Through team sports, children learn the benefits of cooperative effort, keeping your word and being dependable. These are invaluable lessons. Often as adults, parents forget the fact that many hands can make light work.
Entrepreneurs, WAHMs and even SAHMs often mistakenly think they must do everything themselves. They feel that if they do not personally do things, put their hands on every step along the process things will not get done or they will get done incorrectly. This is not a team work attitude. This is attitude is one that leads to frustration, fatigue and hurt feelings.
There is another approach. What if instead of trying to do it all alone you enlisted a team to help you with all you do. As an entrepreneur, dealing with customer service, stop thinking it is all your job to provide good customer service. Instead think of it as a team effort – your customers help you to give them good customer service. Look at customers as team mates with whom you need to communicate and share information in order to get good results.
Stay at home moms, don’t have to do it all alone. Family members should be part of the team to keep the house operating smoothly and efficiently. No SAHM should have to do all the household chores. Instead, spouses, children and anyone living in the home should contribute to making things run smoothly, keeping the house clean and encouraging others to live better lives.
This blog you are reading, Pushing Lovely was created by a group of three women who wanted to work as a team to make life better for bloggers we knew. Each member of the team had a talent that was important for the growth and development of women writers. We had a community manager, a blogging expert and an education leader. Neither of those three parts is enough to create an organization that will help women writers, thrive, develop and prosper. All three of those areas are needed. Team work is needed to make the dream work.
Take time today to look at an area of your life where you want things to happen. Find a dream you want to make come true. Once you find it, put together a team and start working on making that dream come true.
It is terrific to know that no matter how bad things are now, there is a next on the way. Right now, all over the news, radio, and social media people are discussing the tragedy that occurred at the Boston Marathon.
Those discussions are good and important because when a tragedy occurs, those of us left behind want to understand what happened, why it happened and how we can keep the tragedy from repeating itself. We mourn the victims and pray for the survivors and the families of those involved. Everyone around the nation and around the world wants to know what happened and why.
Parents are searching for as many answers as possible so they can explain things to their children. First we want to know what happened, then we want to know why. Then comes the next.